Have you ever been troubled by the past?
It may be the past incidents, past relationships, past mistakes, or the risks you din't take.
Well, most people don't really learn from the past.
We keep the past in our minds just to remind ourselves- how stupid we have been and then what?
we let the past haunt us for a lifetime. Often the past comes to us as flashbacks leading to overthinking and "I don't know what to do with my life anymore , am such a loser" feeling.
Well, Here are some ways that can help :)
1. Acceptance
Most of us don't want to accept our mistakes. Our ego doesn't allow that, does it?
It says- How can I make such a mistake? Am the elder one here, I cannot be wrong, what are the people going to say?
Its a never ending blame game!
Ego is just a social mask. You need not energize it and slowly it'll drain away.
All you need to do is just relax, close your eyes and talk to yourself.
"Yes I have made mistakes. Its okay. I forgive myself. It won't happen Next time. I learnt a lesson
Thankyou Nature"
We are not born wise or perfect. It's absolutely Normal to make mistakes. Whats not normal is NOT making mistakes. Being stagnant by the fear of being hurt or failing is worse than actually facing things and learning. Stagnancy is a lifetime regret.
We are all humans. We learn, we adapt and we grow.
Its like Darwin's Theory of Natural Selection which says ONLY the Fittest of all survives.
Likewise, only the ones who learn survive and do wonders.
Always keep the lessons in mind and not the pain.
2. Let go
After the self help talk. Its time to let go off the burden. It was never yours to bear.
Its like letting go off the balloon and not having to wait for it to come back. The past doesnt Affects you anymore, You have moved on.
Also, one can be occupied by acting on future goals to be accomplished.
3. Live in the moment.
One cannot set his journey to the future if he has his feet still in the past.
Most won't use our thoughts and reasoning and rather look up to people to advice us, which is fine but what's not fine is not acting on it.
We'll ask a lot of people, make ourselves feel good about the advice and perhaps, we'll someday start following it, SOMEDAY
Gods of Procastination!
We forget that our power to change our thoughts lies merely with us.
WE ARE OUR MASTERS. WE are the Heroes.
Our thoughts start as a chain reaction. They are reactive as a free radical. One sad thought and bang.. there we are in the Lost zone.
Thoughts decides our feelings, and feelings tell us on what frequency we are on.
Good thoughts always Uplift our frequencies.
When you feel low, Deliberately Uplift your feelings and your frequencies as you only attract people with the similar frequencies in your life.
Hence Simplest way to avoid Complexity is to live for now and Live in the now.
Think about your priority this very moment and focus on it.
Now is the time you can change yourself and your whole life.
Exciting isn't it?
4. Never lose hope.
You were supposed to achieve some target and you couldn't do that. Feels like a failure.
Now you think you are dumbest person ever. Look at all your friends and then look at you.
or
You have had a rough break up because someone left you or cheated on you
now you think the people are jerks and mean
uh-oh mate! Don't run to the conclusions so soon. Let them come to you.
Firstly, Don't ever quit on yourself. Just get clear with your priorities and work hard and be confident.
Life's a bigger test than your examiner can ever set.
Secondly, no need to get into a "I hate everyone" box.
Rather, explore the people around you. Everyone has something that can be learnt.
People are beautiful.
And also, if you wanted to take risks in the past about your career etc and were afraid to take them, because you din't want to fail, well then grab the very next opportunity you get.
And don't lose hope just keep going.
5. Enjoy the journey
Life's full of ups and downs. Guess what? Its the Ups and downs that keep us going.
The downs give us a new perspective and the ups groom our personality.
Theres Such a big wide universe out there, billions of people out there,
Our problems are just too tiny when compared.
At this very moment, some of you are reading my article, some one out there might be dying,
the soldiers are on the borders keeping us safe, and what not.
Infact after facing different situations you'll realize that it was just waste of time for having spent so much energy thinking about them.
Its all about enjoying your life.
Let the past not break you but let it instill in you the good virtues to make you.
It may be the past incidents, past relationships, past mistakes, or the risks you din't take.
Well, most people don't really learn from the past.
We keep the past in our minds just to remind ourselves- how stupid we have been and then what?
we let the past haunt us for a lifetime. Often the past comes to us as flashbacks leading to overthinking and "I don't know what to do with my life anymore , am such a loser" feeling.
Well, Here are some ways that can help :)
1. Acceptance
Most of us don't want to accept our mistakes. Our ego doesn't allow that, does it?
It says- How can I make such a mistake? Am the elder one here, I cannot be wrong, what are the people going to say?
Its a never ending blame game!
Ego is just a social mask. You need not energize it and slowly it'll drain away.
All you need to do is just relax, close your eyes and talk to yourself.
"Yes I have made mistakes. Its okay. I forgive myself. It won't happen Next time. I learnt a lesson
Thankyou Nature"
We are not born wise or perfect. It's absolutely Normal to make mistakes. Whats not normal is NOT making mistakes. Being stagnant by the fear of being hurt or failing is worse than actually facing things and learning. Stagnancy is a lifetime regret.
We are all humans. We learn, we adapt and we grow.
Its like Darwin's Theory of Natural Selection which says ONLY the Fittest of all survives.
Likewise, only the ones who learn survive and do wonders.
Always keep the lessons in mind and not the pain.
2. Let go
After the self help talk. Its time to let go off the burden. It was never yours to bear.
Its like letting go off the balloon and not having to wait for it to come back. The past doesnt Affects you anymore, You have moved on.
Also, one can be occupied by acting on future goals to be accomplished.
3. Live in the moment.
One cannot set his journey to the future if he has his feet still in the past.
Most won't use our thoughts and reasoning and rather look up to people to advice us, which is fine but what's not fine is not acting on it.
We'll ask a lot of people, make ourselves feel good about the advice and perhaps, we'll someday start following it, SOMEDAY
Gods of Procastination!
We forget that our power to change our thoughts lies merely with us.
WE ARE OUR MASTERS. WE are the Heroes.
Our thoughts start as a chain reaction. They are reactive as a free radical. One sad thought and bang.. there we are in the Lost zone.
Thoughts decides our feelings, and feelings tell us on what frequency we are on.
Good thoughts always Uplift our frequencies.
When you feel low, Deliberately Uplift your feelings and your frequencies as you only attract people with the similar frequencies in your life.
Hence Simplest way to avoid Complexity is to live for now and Live in the now.
Think about your priority this very moment and focus on it.
Now is the time you can change yourself and your whole life.
Exciting isn't it?
4. Never lose hope.
You were supposed to achieve some target and you couldn't do that. Feels like a failure.
Now you think you are dumbest person ever. Look at all your friends and then look at you.
or
You have had a rough break up because someone left you or cheated on you
now you think the people are jerks and mean
uh-oh mate! Don't run to the conclusions so soon. Let them come to you.
Firstly, Don't ever quit on yourself. Just get clear with your priorities and work hard and be confident.
Life's a bigger test than your examiner can ever set.
Secondly, no need to get into a "I hate everyone" box.
Rather, explore the people around you. Everyone has something that can be learnt.
People are beautiful.
And also, if you wanted to take risks in the past about your career etc and were afraid to take them, because you din't want to fail, well then grab the very next opportunity you get.
And don't lose hope just keep going.
5. Enjoy the journey
Life's full of ups and downs. Guess what? Its the Ups and downs that keep us going.
The downs give us a new perspective and the ups groom our personality.
Theres Such a big wide universe out there, billions of people out there,
Our problems are just too tiny when compared.
At this very moment, some of you are reading my article, some one out there might be dying,
the soldiers are on the borders keeping us safe, and what not.
Infact after facing different situations you'll realize that it was just waste of time for having spent so much energy thinking about them.
Its all about enjoying your life.
Let the past not break you but let it instill in you the good virtues to make you.
